inner relationship focus

Focusing on the Inner Relationship teaches us to be in touch with what hurts us the most. When a part of us is still stuck in the past, it means that part of us still lives in the past, that it hasn't moved on.

Everything that lives in us is alive, it obeys a flow that is characteristic of life. Moving on with life is something we do without thinking, without effort. We were designed that way. We have an internal program that drives us to change.

When this flow with life does not occur, it means that a part of us has been trapped in a pain, which has proved too strong for the emotional structure of the moment, or which has resulted from an event too unexpected, or lived without the necessary support, for the resulting emotions could be felt and integrated.

Focusing on the Inner Relationship brings us the possibility of rescuing each of these parts and giving them back the possibility of joining the 'river of life'.

It is with greater lightness that we look at our history. It is with less pain that we look at the wounds we carry within us.

It is in the relationship with these injured parts that we know the next step that each one of them needs to experience, so that it can become a scar.

Every wound becomes a scar, right? There is no wound that with due "First aid" don't heal, right? So there is no reason for emotional wounds to hurt a lifetime, as if they were open wounds.

Focusing brings us this unique way of approaching emotional pain, with all this care and loving look.

We cannot heal something in us that we don't make contact with, that we don't relate to.

In the same way that it is in the relationship that we are traumatized, it is also in the relationship that we heal. In this case healing comes when we learn to relate to all our parts.

Rute Maló